Four Steps to Changing Your Life’s Story

Every person has a story to tell. Each one is uniquely different.  Unfortunately many people whose life is a sob story get so caught up in their story that they spend an enormous amount of  time re-living it over and over again by telling it to anyone who will listen. Their story becomes their “identity” and their justification for why their life is so bad. Society, including family and friends, often just reinforces this victim mentality which only keeps their story in place.
Some people have the mindset,
“That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.”
However, did you ever take time to realize that you are the creator of your story? You are the common denominator in every moment of your life. And did you ever stop to think that every thing starts with a thought? That’s just a fact.  Look around you. Every thing you see, before it became physical, was first a thought. Reach out and pick something up.  What you have in your hand started from a thought. That includes you and everything that has happened in your life. From the moment you were born you have been thinking and feeling your way through life and those thoughts and feelings were the seeds which produced your life.
Whether you want to acknowledge it or not, you have had much more say in what has transpired in your life than you may realize. Consciously you may not have wanted certain things to happen, but subconsciously you drew those experiences to you by what you thought, felt and the resulting actions. When you keep focusing on your past story and all the crap you have had to endure, you only perpetuate more crappy experiences. This explains why people keep repeating patterns in their life, be it in relationships, financial status or health issues.
This repeating pattern is equivalent to the phrase “that’s my story and I’m sticking to it.”

So if you want your life to tell a new story what do you do? Here’s a four step process to help you get started.

First, stop focusing on the past. It’s not that much different than the concept that you don’t focus on the rearview mirror when driving a car. You might glance at it now and then but only for fractions of seconds. To get to your destination and get there safely it’s important and vital that you focus on the road up ahead of you.

Second, claim ownership of your life and take responsibility for the life you are creating. Responsibility means “the ability to respond.” Responsibility gives you the ability and  the authority over who you are now and who you are becoming. The word author comes from the word authority. So you are not only the writer, (thoughts you think and words you say) but you are also the producer, (organizer) and the director, (decision maker).  You play many roles in the story of your life.  As scary as this responsibility is, it is also  empowering to know how much control you have over the story you are creating. Embrace and cherish this responsibility.  For without personal responsibility we would lose our uniqueness and individual life purpose. 

Third, get a goal in mind and set an intention of what you would like to experience. This could be having something, doing something or being something. Get a clear picture of the story you want to create then begin to tell that story. Even if it hasn’t happened yet,  become a visionary of the life you “envision” to have. 

Einstein is quoted as saying,einstein

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

So use your imagination and start to imagine what it will feel like to have that new story come true even if that story only exists in your imagination. Let all the detailed pieces fall into place on their own accord.  Be patient in your attitude, consistent with your actions and open and ready for perfect timing.

Fourth, recognize when you are allowing your  new story to be thwarted, either by your own negative thoughts and emotions or you allow others to warp your vision. Guard your mind. Protect your heart. Pay attention to how you feel and keep reaching for the best feeling you can in any one moment. And most of all don’t pay attention to what other people are doing or saying. That’s their version of your story. Not yours.

We all have a life story to tell. What story have you been telling up till now? Do you have a story you need to let go of? Do you want your life to tell a different story? Then start right now, in this moment, with having thoughts that give you the best and most positive feeling you can feel about who you are and who who want to become. Then just keep on reaching for more thoughts and feelings like those and over time you will create an amazing life and have the most amazing story ever to tell.

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