How do you tell the difference between an insecure thought or feeling that you should ignore and an intuitive thought or feeling that has emerged to protect and guide you?
Here’s a few basic hints to help you tell when what you are feeling is insecurity and fear based and when it is your intuition kicking in trying to get your attention.
1.) Insecurity is usually a head game. It can start in the body, such as when your heart starts pounding when you’re nervous about something, but it quickly moves into your head and the chatter begins. People refer to this as monkey mind. It’s when you can’t seem to quiet the thoughts down and they’re all negative and undermining.
Intuition usually starts in the body as a gut feeling but it can also be words that seem to appear out of nowhere. No matter how hard you try to shake off the feeling it won’t budge. Your body knows what it feels and if you can put it into words the words are simple and firm, not messy or snarky.
2.) Insecurity feels heavy and is an energy drainer. It makes you want to shrink and play small. Intuition feels light and is an energy giver. Even when you face something that is stressful or scary you have a deep sense of trust that it’s going to be ok and that trust gives you the energy to act.
3.) Insecurity triggers the past and you find yourself remembering and comparing previous experiences which have influence over what you are feeling now. Intuition, on the other hand, is a present moment experience that doesn’t seem to be influenced by the past or even present contradictory facts. You know what you know and feel what you feel and it needs no explanation or justification.
4.) Insecurity triggers an amygdala response which is that part of the brain that gives us a fight or flight response. Insecurity makes you feel like you want to argue your case. Argue for your limitations. Intuition on the other hand is more apt to trigger curiosity and questions that bring more clarification. Insecurity seeks excuses. Intuition seeks truth.
5.) Insecurity is reactionary and intense, almost manic and defensive. Intuition can be reactionary as well but the reaction time is slower, calmer and feels grounded. Intuition doesn’t feel like it needs to defend itself. It can take opposition and remain standing.
6.) Insecurity makes you feel like your battle is “out there” and how you feel has everything to do with the external and your comfort level. Intuition brings you inward and the battle is between your higher self that wants to protect you vs your higher self that wants you to grow. The external trigger is irrelevant. It’s all about what is ultimately best for your highest good even if that requires action that is uncomfortable.
7.) When faced with limited information insecurity jumps in and fills in the blanks. It needs a story, a narrative for explanation. Intuition is ok with mystery and the unexplained.
So next time you have one of those moments when you feel unsure of yourself or you face making a difficult decision or do something that is a little scary use some of these criteria to determine is this my own insecurities talking or maybe it’s my intution giving me some guidance.