Aligning your heart with your head these days is no easy task. We are constantly being pulled with facts, information and mental rationalizations that cause many of us to overthink life which only causes our heart to respond to our overthinking with emotional outbursts and swings in our mood. In a world where there is so much our senses are taking in to process mentally and emotionally, not to mentional psychologically and spiritually how does one stay balanced? How do you aligned your heart with your head and feel steady at the wheel of life?
Here are three things you can do to help bring you back to balance:
The first thing to do is to just be aware of how a thought triggers your emotions. So if a thought comes to mind and you immediately get an uneasy feeling, stop and just notice how the thought affected you. Then see if you can come up with a thought that is the exact opposite. By doing this you negate and balance your emotional response. If you had a thought that scares you then what thought is the antithesis to that scary thought. Catch negative thoughts early and counter punch them with positive thoughts that you choose to have. The bottom line is be more conscious of what is going on in your head and take control of your thoughts.
Second, notice if you have an automatice emotional response to something that happens even prior to you being aware of any thought going through your mind. And then just say, “Wow! That really triggered me. I must have an emotion built up inside me that needs to be released.” And then just acknowledge the emotion and let yourself feel it and let it go. It’s like when we see a picture that causes us to immediately tear up or when someone says something that we have an angry knee jerk reaction to. It’s when we resist our negative emotions and try to deny them that causes the build up and over the top responses. Unacknolwedged emotions stay with us. Acknowledged emotions are more apt to pass through us.
Third, when you have a wave of peace come over you, even if it’s only a slight feeling and short lived, acknowledge the feeling and think, “Boy that felt good.” And sit with that state for as long as you can before you get distracted. For instance, a song could come on the radio or you see a heartwarming post or story on the internet or someone holds the door open for you as you approach a store. It could be anything, big or small, that makes you feel calm, appreciated and taken care of even for just a fleeting moment. Treasure those moments and purposefully think thoughts that build on the momentum of feeling good.
Our world today is filled with extremes and our emotional pendulum is swinging wildly unless we do things to purposefully slow it down. By being more aware of how our head and our heart our communicating with one another brings them in alignment and helps us feel more centered and steady at the wheel of life.