We’ve got three main aspects that make up our identity. You’ll see that it parallels Freud’s three parts of our psyche – the id, the ego and the super ego.
First we have what I call our “core identity.” That is the part of us that we are born with. It includes our personality, our gifts and talents, our experiences and subsequent subconscious beliefs in particular that are formed between the age of birth and around 5 years old. Everyone comes with a preset identity of how they think and process and communicate information. It’s like your blueprint identity that is the basic foundation and building blocks of who you are.
Second, we have what I call our “ego identity.” This is our outer mask we wear and the roles we play. It is associated with what we “do.” We go out into the world and portray ourselves as an entrepreneur, a teacher, a lawyer, a mom, a writer, etc. We invest a lot of energy into this aspect of our ego because it is that part of us that gets the majority of feedback and validation from the outside world. This identity forms over time and through our experiences, both conscious ones as well as subconscious ones – those subliminal messages we are exposed to.
And third, we have what you could call our “spiritual identity.” This is that part of us that is our inner knowing of why we are here, our soul’s purpose and the part of us that recognizes when we are on the right path. This is the part of us that falls in love at first sight, that jumps at opportunities with blind faith that it is the right thing to do, and inspires us to “climb that mountain” because it is there. It is the inner beacon that guides us and gives us direction and answers when life gets too confusing to figure out by trying to think our way to the answers.
So when you hear someone talk about being in “alignment” what they are referring to is when all these identities we each have in us are in harmony with one another. It is like the tower of rocks in the picture that are all connected and working together to create the structure.
When we are in alignment there is no inner conflict and each aspect of who we are compliments one another and there is a sense of peace and flow to our life. There are a number of different modalities and energy healing techniques that help us get in alignment – tapping (EFT) is but one of them. Other things people do are to meditate, journal, and yoga and dietary supplements.
What are you doing to align your identities? Are you making alignment a priority in our schedule? If not, what could be stopping you? Maybe that’s where you need to start? Would love your comments or questions.